Sometimes Being Selfish is the Best Option – Here’s Why

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“Sometimes, you must do what’s best for you and your life, not what’s best for everybody else.” – Unknown

When I start thinking about creating these hope/motivational posts (because they are SO needed when you’re in the trenches of saving money/getting out of debt) I scroll through my ever-running list of quotes, and I think, “Okay Universe, what does someone need to hear today?” And then, I’m drawn to one quote over another. I like to think that it will help one (or ALL!;) of you get just the push you need to keep going, and help you stay motivated on your trek to a life free from debt!

It can get really tough battling debt, so we’ve got to stay strong as we fight the evils of debt together! (I just imagined like, a zillion She-Ra’s with swords drawn, and debt just dropping dead all over the place. You too? Okay, good.)

Now about this quote here… So, CLEARLY it’s great to care about how your actions will affect others but sometimes you’ve got to say, “Screw it!”, and maybe be a little selfish if that’s what it takes to get yourself to a healthier place. I think this concept applies to all areas of life, and not just to the financial aspect. Do you have people in your life that are keeping you in unhealthy habits? And then do you in turn feel like crap because the choices you’re making aren’t honoring the TRUE you? If so, that’s a feeling you should listen to. You’re getting those shitty feelings for a reason… to prompt you into action.

Sometimes friends/family/partners don’t “get” why you would want to get out of debt if it means you have to do some sacrificing. I understand that to a point, and I believe that it’s usually because they love you and don’t want to see you suffer. However, if you find that after you tell certain people that you’re trying to get out of debt, they still pressure you to spend, and minimize your efforts and successes even after they’ve had time to come around then it might be time to be “selfish” in your effort to become a better you.

For me, being “selfish” meant that I had to tell people stuff they didn’t want to hear sometimes. Usually that was saying, “No” to invites to dinner or lunch out, saying “No” to concerts, and saying “No” to trips. It wasn’t fun to do, and some people got mad and called me selfish but I did it, and made it to the other side. And you know what? I’m glad I stuck to my mission, and was committed to at least trying to become debt-free. To me, in those instances, being selfish was needed, and absolutely the best option for me to make.

 

What do you think? Have you ever had to be “selfish” in order to protect what’s best for you? I sure have. Would love to hear your thoughts on this. 

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  1. Danielle

    Hi Anna,
    I have been reading your blog for the last few months and have been really inspired by your journey. Your motivational quotes are awesome and they really are just the thing I need in the morning when I feel like I will be in debt forever.

    I’m facing a tremendous amount of student loans to pay off and I also happen to live in New York City, probably the worst place you could live while in debt. So I have had to get comfortable with the idea of being selfish and turning down invitations for dinners, weekend trips just to keep my head above water by one or two more inches. Initially, it sucked telling some of my best friends that I just couldn’t afford to do something, but they understood — that’s why they’re my best friends. I’ve also tried to find social activities that minimize the spending. For example, instead of spending $40+ just on brunch, I’ll eat breakfast at home and then meet a friend for an iced coffee and a long walk in a part of the city I haven’t explored yet. I still get to be social but for much, much less.

    Danielle
    livespendsave.wordpress.com

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    1. Anna Newell Jones Post author

      Hi Danielle, I’m so glad the blog has been helpful to you, and you are so inspiring to take on your debt while living in NYC. I love your brunch technique too. It makes me a little sick to think about spending $40+ on brunch (!!!!). Keep me posted on how it’s going. You can do this! xo

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  2. Kathryn

    I agree with this post 100%! It shouldn’t be considered selfish to need to take care of yourself first – how can you help anyone else if you’re a mess? But unfortunately that’s how most people view it. I’ve been practising my ‘no’ and am getting better at it. I’ve also found that true friends are open to cheap or free alternatives to catching up which is a huge help. It’s great when they are at similar stages or have the same interests as me. Thanks for sharing!

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