I ate up a piece of chocolate tonight and this was the little gem of wisdom tucked inside.
Smiling Is Free.
Good point Dove. Good point.
Do you ever find yourself staring at a whole mess of leftovers in your refrigerator? I’ve found that eating out of the fridge and out of the cupboards– using up the stuff I already have is a great way to cut back on spending money. Groceries tend to eat up most of my money thoughout the month.
Stinkin. Groceries! Are! Expensive!
I was thinking people would probably be way more into leftovers if they had a more fun name.
Maye something like: “Deja Vu Meals”.
Seriously. Am I right or am I right!? That’d be WAY more fun.
Or, we could called them: “Hello Again Meals.”
Or: “Hi Again’s”.
Or: “Hey Stranger, New To Town? Nope. You’re Not!”
Okay, now I’m just getting hysterical.
What’s your favorite leftover meal? How do you stretch your bucks in the meal department?
(Totally un-related fact: when my identical twin sister and I were little kids we always thought that if we had our own “identical twin sitcom” we would call it “Deja Vu”. We grew up with that twin show “Sister Sister” so we thought we had a shot.
And, well, we would be hiiillarrious, of course!
We always thought about going to a Twins Festival too. Anyone ever been to one?)
Oh, Hey! Just doing taxes. Tallying receipts and adding them all up. I do it the “old school” way. Throughout the year I save every single receipt, every single invoice, every single statement and then categorize them at the end of the year during tax time. It’s a leeeetle bit tedious, and it makes me what to never spend money on anything again. At. All. That’s why I waited until tonight to do this part. I’m sure there is an easier and less painful way but I like to torture myself so I do it this way. I kept putting it off and making big sighs and then asked my husband to get me some chocolate cake.
Taxes with chocolate cake is, I’ve officially decided, the ONLY way to do taxes.
That may look like a lot of receipts/statements/paper for someone who did a Spending Fast in 2010 but I assure you it’s a million times less than 2009’s. For real. For really.
So, I bid you adieu for now and happy tax season.
This is how it’s been going:
– Wander around stores
– Something catches my eye
– “Oh, I’ll just try it on!”
– Think about it
– Debate about it in my head
– Decide I need it
– “No, I don’t”
– “Yes, I do!”
– Buy it
– Let it set there in the bag on my bedroom floor while I think about how I shouldn’t have bought it
– Feel bad
– Go back to store
– Return it
– Feel better (slightly)
I’m not sure why I am even putting myself in these positions of being in stores since it’s not working for me. Going into stores worked while I was on The Spending Fast since I just could easily say “Nope. No. Nooo.” to it all. That was easy. Shockingly easy compared to this. I’ve been putting myself in positions of wanting and since it’s not working out for me I’ve gotta cut this crap out. Why, am I continuing this “shop-feel-shitty-buying-cycle”?
Buyer’s Remorse sucks because it’s making me feel shitty but there’s also a good side to it since that feeling of dread after a purchase is helping me realize that I don’t have to keep an item “just because”.
I can change my mind. I can get that money back into my account. It’s okay. And man, it feels SO much better to have that money back into my account. Geez. A lot better. It eases the guilt. It eases the remorseful feeling. It “fixes” it. Puts it back together again.
It was fascinating to read (on Wikipedia) that Buyer’s Remorse is actually a real anxiety and not just all up in my own head. Other people go through this too. It’s nice to know other people go through it too. It’s nice to not be alone. You know.
Typically Buyer’s Remorse accompanies large purchases like houses and cars. I’m thinking that I’m experiencing it so much because compared to what I WAS spending ($zero) any spending feels like a lot A LOT. It’s all explainable. It makes sense really.
This is what Wikipedia says:
Buyer’s remorse is the sense of regret after having made a purchase. It is frequently associated with the purchase of big-ticket items such as a car or house. It may stem from fear of making the wrong choice, of guilt over extravagance, or of suspecting having been “snowed” by a sales associate.
In the phase before purchasing, a prospective buyer often feels positive emotions associated with a purchase (desire, a sense of heightened possibilities, and an anticipation of the enjoyment that will accompany using the product, for example); afterwards, having made the purchase, they are more fully able to experience the negative aspects: all the opportunity costs of the purchase, and a reduction in purchasing power.
Also, before the purchase, the buyer has a full array of options, including not purchasing; afterwards, their options have been reduced to:
Buyer’s remorse can also be caused or increased by worrying that other people may later question the purchase or claim to know better alternatives.
Buyer’s remorse, when evidence exists that it is justified, is a classical example of cognitive dissonance. One will either seek to discount the new evidence, or truly regret and try to renounce the purchase.