Buyer’s Remorse, You Wretched (but Wonderful) Beast
Author: Anna Newell Jones

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There’s nothing quite like the Buyer’s Remorse I’ve been experiencing since The Spending Fast proper ended. My $100 per month “non-needs” limit is feeling a little arbitrary at this point. I’ve bought a few items and then promptly returned them. It almost feels like every store I walk into has a theoretical revolving door.

This is how it’s been going:

– Wander around stores

– Something catches my eye

– “Oh, I’ll just try it on!”

– Think about it

– Debate about it in my head

– Decide I need it

– “No, I don’t”

– “Yes, I do!”

– Buy it

– Let it set there in the bag on my bedroom floor while I think about how I shouldn’t have bought it

– Feel bad

– Go back to store

– Return it

– Feel better (slightly)

I’m not sure why I am even putting myself in these positions of being in stores since it’s not working for me. Going into stores worked while I was on The Spending Fast since I just could easily say “Nope. No. Nooo.” to it all. That was easy. Shockingly easy compared to this. I’ve been putting myself in positions of wanting and since it’s not working out for me I’ve gotta cut this crap out. Why, am I continuing this “shop-feel-shitty-buying-cycle”?

Buyer’s Remorse sucks because it’s making me feel shitty but there’s also a good side to it since that feeling of dread after a purchase is helping me realize that I don’t have to keep an item “just because”.

I can change my mind. I can get that money back into my account. It’s okay. And man, it feels SO much better to have that money back into my account. Geez. A lot better. It eases the guilt. It eases the remorseful feeling. It “fixes” it. Puts it back together again.

It was fascinating to read (on Wikipedia) that Buyer’s Remorse is actually a real anxiety and not just all up in my own head. Other people go through this too. It’s nice to know other people go through it too. It’s nice to not be alone. You know.

Typically Buyer’s Remorse accompanies large purchases like houses and cars. I’m thinking that I’m experiencing it so much because compared to what I WAS spending ($zero) any spending feels like a lot A LOT. It’s all explainable. It makes sense really.

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This is what Wikipedia says:

Buyer’s remorse is the sense of regret after having made a purchase. It is frequently associated with the purchase of big-ticket items such as a car or house. It may stem from fear of making the wrong choice, of guilt over extravagance, or of suspecting having been “snowed” by a sales associate.

The anxiety may be rooted in various factors, such as: the person’s concern they purchased the wrong product, purchased for too high of a price, purchased a current model now rather than waiting for a newer model, purchased in an ethically unsound way, purchased on credit that will be difficult to repay, or purchased something that would not be acceptable to others.

In the phase before purchasing, a prospective buyer often feels positive emotions associated with a purchase (desire, a sense of heightened possibilities, and an anticipation of the enjoyment that will accompany using the product, for example); afterwards, having made the purchase, they are more fully able to experience the negative aspects: all the opportunity costs of the purchase, and a reduction in purchasing power.

Also, before the purchase, the buyer has a full array of options, including not purchasing; afterwards, their options have been reduced to:

  • continuing with the purchase, surrendering all alternatives
  • renouncing the purchase

Buyer’s remorse can also be caused or increased by worrying that other people may later question the purchase or claim to know better alternatives.

Buyer’s remorse, when evidence exists that it is justified, is a classical example of cognitive dissonance. One will either seek to discount the new evidence, or truly regret and try to renounce the purchase. 

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in Spending Fast, Struggle (Hopeless, Demoralized)
Looking For You (CLOSED)
Author: Anna Newell Jones

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I’m looking for people who have interesting/exciting/horrible/great/sad/moving/inspiring financial/money/saving/spending/making do and mending/living simply/living inexpensively stories/experiences/lives that you’re willing to share.

I’m looking for guest writer contributers and people willing to do Q&A’s. This would be for a new weekly section on this blog. Contact me via the Contact button above or email me at: hello@andthenshesaved.com

Can’t wait to talk with you!

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in Guest Interviews
Quality Of Life Issues and Other Very Important Things
Author: Anna Newell Jones

Below is a snippet from an article I found on The Gloss by Jen Dziura. Click on the below section to read the full article. This essay brings up a good issue. It makes me think about “The quality of life issue” and how do I REALLY want to spend the hours of my life? Maybe that’s not the authors point but that’s what I got out of it.

Broccoli. It’s very important.

 

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in Do Without, Money, Social
Frugal Lips Sink Ships
Author: Anna Newell Jones

Over the weekend I got to the bottom of some lipstick sticks. I know, my life is pretty exciting over here. The drama and excitement is pretty hard to handle. I’m trying to contain all the craziness.

Before the Spending Fast/Diet if I got to the bottom of a lipstick I would just toss it into the trash because well, all the lipstick was gone. Now, things are a little different, a lot different. Since I’m always on the look out for ways to save more, extend the life of things and “make do with” I saw the end of these lipsticks not as the end but as a chance to get crafty.

Yes. Crafty.

Did you know that there is a little chunk of lipstick at the bottom of the lipstick stick that is basically a little pot of gold at the end of the rainbow? It’s just a little nugget waiting to be found. There is literally a 1/4 inch of lipstick that sits there anchoring the stick of lipstick to the bottom of the stick.

I went to a store that sells lots of containers and I got this empty itty bitty plastic tub that was 76¢. Then, I scoped out the nuggety lipstick goodness (with a couple of toothpicks grouped together) and into the little container it went. I put a bit of Vaseline in there too and swirled it all up and looky there- semi-homemade lip gloss!

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in Fashion & Style, Make Do & Mend, Practical Solutions, Spending Fast, Things To Do
Gucci VS Gap?
Author: Anna Newell Jones

Gucci is high-end to me as is Gap and Target these days.

Getting name-brand oatmeal would be living the high-life.

This article on CNNMoney is really fascinating and it points out something that I can really relate to. It also brings up an important discussion: “Do I save my pennies and buy longer lasting quality ‘high-end’ items or go with the ‘lower-end’ item that will wear out faster but be less expensive initially?”

Since I’m thinking of my mottos throughout the respective last year of the Spending Fast and this year’s Spending Diet I’m inclined to think “Quality over Quantity” and “Wear It Out” which to me means buy less QUANTITY and have more QUALITY.

So, basically I just talked myself into a Louis Vuitton bag. Hey, the article told me to. Who am I to argue?

Click on the below image to read the full article. Would love to hear your thoughts on this.

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in Fashion & Style, Money, Spending Fast
Let’s Do This
Author: Anna Newell Jones

 

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How are things going? Are you doing a Spending Diet or Spending Fast this year, month, week, day? If so, how’s it going?

I’m feeling like a maniac with insatiable shopping desires lately. I look at magazines and see something I want, I watch TV and see something I need. It’s like I’m constantly being bombarded with consumerism and want and with doing more and getting more to achieve more and more and more. It’s easy for me to think that “if only I had this item or that thing everything would fall into place”. Gotta look the part, right? Gotta dress for the job I want and not the job I have, right? Gotta keep up with the Joneses, right?

In a way I feel like this is our way of life. It’s completely encouraged to consume and buy and be a hearty and wholesome contributer to society. Buy, buy, buy. It IS for the economy afterall.

Make more > to have more > to consume more > to prove that you have money and success!

Jackpot. Mission Complete.

With the Spending Fast I learned that having everything I wanted wasn’t really all it was cracked up to be. With the Spending Fast I learned that it was nice to be free from the gripes of consumerism and materialism. It was nice to not be thinking about things so much.

This year with the Spending Diet I’m trying to find balance between my wants and reality. Reality is that I can’t and shouldn’t buy (or even think about buying) every item that catches my eye. How do I do this? That’s really what I’m trying to figure out these days. I’ll have mainly good days and then I feel like I regress or something. It can be discouraging but I guess I figure I can basically begin anew the next minute and if all else fails, there’s always the “Returns” counter.

I tell ya what, there’s nothing quite like the quality of Buyer’s Remorse that comes after a year long Spending Fast.

It’s its own breed of WHOA.

I don’t want to be struggling with wants and desires and spending and not spending. I want to be a natural saver. Someone who just doesn’t want to spend money. I wonder if I could get hypnotized to get that removed. Any hypnotists out there?

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in Do Without, Environment, Money, Spending Fast, Take Action!
Little Victories
Author: Anna Newell Jones

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Today’s post is all about a featured COMMUNITY post by Jessie. If you haven’t been to the Community page I implore you to explore it.

She brings up a good topic: Little Victories. It’s so easy to get caught up in the big, massive goals like oh, PAYING OFF ALL THE DEBT. But the reality is there is so much that happens everyday that counts too.

Some examples of things I do: passing up a tasty treat all in the name of paying off my debt, washing a plastic sandwich sack to re-use it the next time one is needed and continuing to turn the heat down a few degrees to save just a few more pennies.

All these little things don’t seem like all that much but they create much over time. That’s what’s so great about little things: they are cumulative.

New habits get formed with each little victory. New habits = major financial results.

Thanks to Jessie for bringing up this topic and thanks to everyone who has shared and continues to share on the Community page.

Bring up what you’re going through already, you crazy cracker.

I mean that in the nicest way possible. Seriously.

by slinkachu

p.s. how freaking awesome are these pictures!? wow

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in Goals, Make Do & Mend, Motivation, Paying Off Debt
Feelings and Such
Author: Anna Newell Jones

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I feel like I outta and wanna give a shout out to some people/blogs/sites that have been majorly supportive of my blog/story/thingy.

It’s easy for me to forget how great things are and then I get all funky and wahh and eh and meh and on and on and well, life is good for the most part. Even when it is winter and chilly it’s still nice to be alive and be able to breathe and all that.

Besides, when I remember to be grateful I want less and appreciate more. Meaning I don’t feel the urge to spend and I actually truly recognize the awesomeness that surrounds me and how material things don’t matter much at all in the big scope of things, you know.

i used to have a bird that looked like this one. light blue and all. she was really sweet and would have been completely freaked out by that cage/aquarium. this doesn’t have anything to do with this post but i like the picture. that’s why it’s here. longgg caption herreeee realllyy loooonnngg caption.

I’m thankful for wonderful sponsors. Thank you: Big Joe’s Man Cave, The Spirtual Finance Initiative, LobotoME, Think of England, Seahag and Walrus, Scout: Dry Goods & Trade, Quickie Review, Dan and Larry. Also, thank you to the sites that have recently included my site on theirs: Girl with the Red Balloon, Move To Portugal, Debt Free By Thirty, MidLife Mom Musings, BlogHer, Misplaced Coupon, The Lilliputian Project, Change Can Be a Good Thing, My McLovely Life, Five Foot Phenom, Vartabedianr, 24 Savvy, Bride-onicles, Maigh, Cute Like Me, Erica Leigh, Laurel Queen, Hand D Photo, Go Boo Boo, Off The Beaten Path, Westervin

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in Gratitude, Personal, Sponsored
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