Recently I saw this article on The New York Times called To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This. It is a super interesting article that talks about how over 20 years ago psychologist Arthur Aron got two strangers to fall in love. It all starts by asking each other a series of 36 questions (The 36 Questions That Lead to Love). The questions start out broad and then one-by-one get increasingly more intimate. Basically fast-tracking the whole “get to know you” period. Then, the questions are followed up with a four-minute eye-to-eye stare down. This whole thing got me wondering, “Can you replicate what these people did even if you’re already in a relationship?” What if you just ask your partner all the questions right there in your living room? I figure that asking each other questions and staring into each other’s eyes is far less-expensive than relationship counseling and it could give you a major closeness booster so it could be worth a shot, right?
I’ve rounded up A TON (1,831) of questions for you to ask your partner (not all at once. lol). I’ve been trying to not assume I know how Aaron is going to answer because it’s so easy to do that after you’ve been with someone for awhile. That way it keeps me open-minded and he’s allowed to change, grow, evolve, and maybe even surprise me sometimes. :)
Use these questions in conjunction with a date night (24 Date Night Ideas for $10 or Less) or when you’re just emptying out the dishwasher together. It’s a free way to get closer and deeper your love.
1,831 Questions to Ask Your Partner to Get to Know Them Better…