The Perfectionism Curse – A Spending Diet Update

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Melanie is here with an update on her Spending Diet progress, and she is absolutely killing it! – Anna

With the holidays here, the Spending Diet is getting harder and harder. I was hoping to spend my allotted $100 Spending Diet budget on gifts, but that didn’t go as planned. I stuck with my budget of $100 for my Spending Diet allotment and but I also spent an additional $100 for gifts, and that’s not what I intended to do. It’s becoming harder and harder to resist temptation.

I don’t usually go shopping. At all. I stay out of stores to resist temptation, but the holidays have forced me to go into stores (coupons in hand) and actually shop. During a recent shopping excursion, I bought a fleece jacket as gift for myself. I had a coupon, it was a super discount and I used my Spending Diet allotment, but had I not gone into that store, I would have never known about that jacket.

I know what you’re going to say at this point– I could make all the gifts. I’ve told myself that several times. But craft supplies cost money too and as a working girl with two jobs, I have a time budget. There’s only so many hours in the day and making beautiful gifts for almost 20 people isn’t my priority. My budget (and my family!) is my priority. Yes, I’ve planned to make a few gifts, but the majority have been or will be purchased.

And yes, I know that the holiday season isn’t all about consumerism. It’s about spending time with the ones you love, spreading joy, helping others in need and eating way too many holiday cookies. I plan on doing all of the above and spending lots of time with my loved ones (whether they like it or not!), but I also would like to show my appreciation through a token.

This month I’ve been fighting a bit of an internal battle. I want to be giving and I don’t want to be selfish, but I want to stay on budget. I want to save for me and for my future. This month has also forced me to think about my struggle with perfectionism. I try my best at everything in life. My perfectionism has helped me in certain aspects in my life, but with budgeting, my perfectionism often tells me that I’m failing. I managed to save another $1,000 this month and that’s amazing. I’ve saved $5,600 in just 5 months. A couple of years ago, I saved nothing at all. This holiday season let’s all tell perfectionism to get off our backs, ok? We have a budget, but we’re not going to beat ourselves up about it. Can I get an amen?

-Melanie

 

Month 5 Savings: $1,000

Started the Spending Diet: July 1, 1014

Savings to date: $5,600

 

How do you let perfectionism go, and be happy with your accomplishments even if they fall short of your goal?

P.S. See all of Melanie’s Spending Diet updates.

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3 Incredibly Easy Ways to Share the Goodness this Holiday Season

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Continuing on with my Kmart partnership, I’m sharing something that is super important to me, spreading kindness! If you are short on ideas or just need a boost of inspiration here is a post called 134 Random Acts of Kindness Ideas that will give a great list to start on.

This holiday season, it feels like people I’ve run into have been especially kind. People have held the door open for me when I’ve had my hands full with Henry, and groceries, they’ve been letting me into traffic even when the traffic is thick and busy, and there was the clerk at the grocery store who went out of his way to help me out with something, and all that goodness that I’ve been fortunate to receive reminds me to spread the love too. I always try to, of course, but sometimes, it’s so nice to have those reminders.

I’m so thankful to have all of those in my life who are healthy and happy (especially my baby son), and I really want to give to those who are not. Kmart makes it easy to give back because between 12/7 and 12/13 (today!), Kmart is donating $1 to St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital for every Fab 15 toy that is purchased (up to a max of 25k). Kmart is one of the all-time leading St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital fundraising partner, and they have already donated more than 10 million this holiday season alone (!!!).

Here are a couple other ways you can support St. Jude through Kmart this season…

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Unplanned Circumstances Derail Spending Fast – Jennifer’s Update

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Jennifer is a Spending Faster who is sharing the process here. To catch up from the beginning read this post: Introducing a New Spending Faster!. – Anna

Due to a sudden change in roommate status, I was unable to save for my first month of the Spending Fast. My roommate decided to suddenly move out, so I had to unexpectedly cover the month’s bills. I’ll get a new start in this second month. The good news is my dear friend, Tina, has decided to live with me for the next year and a half, giving me the time I need to complete the Spending Fast.

What are some of the good and bad living situations you have encountered?

I’m sure everyone has experienced it in one-way or another. I know I have many times over! But after the Spending Fast, my hope is that it will be the end of roommates.

I’m not counting this month as a total loss, but instead as a month of changing bad habits to achieve my goals. I tackled my worst habit of buying breakfast and coffee from Starbucks EVERYDAY! I am proud of myself for this WIN.  But how did I do such a thing, you ask? It wasn’t easy. I dusted off my old single serve coffee machine and got a killer deal online of T-disc for 50 cents per cup! Who knew I could get so excited over math! Changing everyday decisions like these will help me in the long run, and is why this was my first area of concentration.

This situation is so so so similar to Anna’s breakfast burrito problems. (See: Your Habits are Making You Broke)

The next thing I need to tackle is spending money on social situations. This month I went back through my online bank entries and wrote down every entry that could have been avoided. Between social situations and spur of the moment decisions, I could have avoided spending $112.49. A movie, a pizza delivery, a sushi outing and 3 bar tabs. Those were my weak moments that I need to tackle next and avoid.

I am not perfect and these were my results for the month. Looking at this in writing, and knowing that I could have the amount of $112 as opposed to $0 saved, makes me face this reality and want to do better.

So you can catch me reading Anna’s archives this month under the categories social, societal pressures, and motivation.

Month 1: $0.00 savings

 

Do you have some bad habits that are affecting your financial situation?

P.S. Follow along with all the Spending Fasters.

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