Many people try to live by the motto of ‘live without regret’ but it is almost inevitable that someone will regret at least something from their past. In some cases, that regret can make it very difficult to keep moving forward with their life. They dwell on the past and suffer the regret daily.
In order to live a life of progress and growth one must learn to forgive one’s self and look towards the future rather than be consumed by regrets of the past.
By not spending as much time thinking about material objects we’re freed up to think about, and act on the more substantial, meaningful parts of life. This is the perfect time to finally forgive yourself.
21 Life Mistakes You Need to Hurry Up and Forgive Yourself For Making…
1. Places you never went
Many people neglected opportunities to travel while they were financially and physically able. It’s time to get off your duff and see what’s out there. Even on a budget there are many fascinating and often free things to explore in your community, in your state, or across the seas. Just because you didn’t go before doesn’t mean you can’t get out there now. (Posts on how to travel cheap)
2. Jobs you didn’t take
Consider that the job you regret not getting (or going for) might not have been right for you. If your gut instinct was to refuse the job at the time, or if too many things pointed to you not going after it the job at the time then trust that you made the best decision you could at the time. If you still have career regrets, now is the time to consider what you really want to do with your work life and find a way to get it done.
3. Money you wasted
Money regrets are often one of the biggest regrets anyone has throughout their lifetime. In order to move on from the mistakes you’ve made before, you have to make a commitment to not letting history repeat itself. Start today by getting your finances in order and on the right path. Complacency about money matters will only prolong your regret. Take the Get Out of Debt Pledge and get on track this very minute!
4. Time you wasted
Whether your regret wasting years of your life or just the few hours you could have been more productive, you can stop the insanity and get serious about how you spend your time. There are a lot of distractions out there that can cause you to procrastinate. Start limiting your TV time, your computer time, and the other elements of your life that are guaranteed time wasters and instead seize the day every day. (You might like this post: Dramatically Increase the Quality of Your Life)
5. Friends you hurt
Hurting people you love can be devastating especially if you can’t admit your role in the situation. If it is too late to make up with the person you hurt, make a commitment to practicing more kindness in your life to prevent another hurtful situation. Learn to walk away from the drama that is so prevalent in society today. We all know, life is too short.
6. Friendships lost
It can be difficult to lose your best friend over the years. People grow and change and may longer be the right fit into each other’s lives. If you lost a friendship that you regret, try reaching out to see what happens. If the other person does not respond, respect that. Work on being a better friend to those still in your life.
7. Love you lost
Love is often one regret people find it impossible to get over. Sadly, many people end up with additional regrets while mourning the loss of a past love (infidelity, lies). You must be willing to accept the life you have created for yourself and realize what you do have to be grateful for every day. If the road to rekindling a relationship are free and clear, don’t let fear or regret hold you back. Take the risk and see where love can take you.
8. Opportunities you missed
They say opportunity only knocks once so if you missed answering the door to an opportunity in the past, ask yourself what is stopping you from creating newer, better opportunities. Figure out why it is you passed up the chance the first time around and be honest with yourself. Get over past regrets by searching for the next opportunity and going after it full force.
9. Family discord
Part of what makes up a family is the process of fighting and then forgiving. In some families the fighting seems unforgivable and many live years under the weight of a grudge. If you regret a long-lasting family squabble, be the first to make amends. Be prepared for what may result – good or bad. Rest easier knowing you did what you could to correct your mistakes. It’s sad to see or hear about families who get torn apart by seemingly stupid arguments. Don’t let your ego stand in the way.
10. Incomplete education
If you dropped out of school in the past, you may regret what you’ve missed out on by lacking the education you wanted. The good news is that in this day and age there are so many new ways to get educated, you can do better. Online courses, community colleges, and trade schools are much more accessible than in previous years. Contact the admissions office of the school you’ve been considering and get started on creating a better life for yourself.
11. Parenting mistakes
If you are a parent, there is likely at least one thing you regret about how you handled your kids. You may have one big regret (your child was seriously hurt when you weren’t paying attention) or a series of daily regrets (you lost your patience again!). Whatever the regret, know that no parent is perfect. Your family will love you for who you are. Get recommitted to spending quality time with them, listening actively, and doing what you have to in order to keep your family safe, healthy, and happy.
12. Poor eating habits
People often regret their lifelong poor eating habits after they’ve discovered a serious illness or an uncontrolled weight issue. If you often say you should eat better, don’t let your junk food obsession end in serious regret (or early death). Get proactive about eating right. Do some research about what you should be eating to fuel your body each day. (You might like this post: 98 Cheap & Easy Foods to Make for Under 5 Bucks)
13. Lack of activity
If we all had a nickel for every time we’ve said we need to get more exercise, the majority of us would be filthy rich. Stop thinking about how you wished you were more active and get more active. Skip one television show a day and opt for a walk instead. With just 30 minutes of exercise each day can easily become a habit and you’ll feel healthier, stronger, and more clear-headed. (Related: “I Lost 84 Pounds without a Gym Membership”)
14. Lost religion
People defect from their religious upbringing or beliefs for a number of different reasons. While some people do not regret such decisions, others live with daily guilt that they are out of touch with their own spirituality. Take some time to think through what is missing in your life. Reach out to friends or fellow church members about your absence or desire to get involved again. Another solution is to simply take a minute to connect with your Higher Power through a simple prayer or meditation.
15. Missed volunteer opportunities
Volunteering can bring so much to your life. If you’ve been putting off opportunities to help another and now regret it, you still have plenty of opportunities waiting for you. From community soup kitchens to helping your elderly neighbor, there is a way you can benefit others around you. You can push regrets in the past by being available to lend a helping hand throughout your future.
16. Your bad attitude
We live chaotic lives. Being busy with work, family, activities, and whatever else you do can result in a bad mood. You may regret instances where your bad attitude hurt another’s feelings or made a bad situation even worse. To move past your previous attitude, learn how to calm yourself down and practice relaxation techniques every day to gain more inner peace.
17. Ignored intervention
As people in society continue to spiral out of control through use of drugs, alcohol, or violence, it is very likely that you have someone in your life affected by such negative influences. People often choose to avoid these situations out of fear or helplessness only to find out their friend later was hurt or killed. If you live with regrets of not helping someone facing such issues, you can learn to forgive yourself by helping others facing similar fates.
18. Misjudging others
Judging a book by its cover often leads to regret. You miss out on getting to know someone great or you end up saying something you regret to someone you don’t even know. Find forgiveness directly with the person you misjudged so you can forgive yourself. If that is not an option, make sure you avoid harsh or quick judgments in the future.
19. Not achieving a personal goal
Personal goals are often put to the wayside out of fear or procrastination. Living with the regret of not achieving a personal goal can set the stage for failing to create new goals or following through to achievement. Forget what you didn’t succeed at in the past. You can take what you’ve learned since then and set reasonable goals you commit to going after.
20. Lack of quality time with loved ones
This is a big regret, especially after the passing of a loved one. If you are living with regret of not spending enough quality time with your parents, grandparents, and other people you love, don’t let history repeat itself. Carve out quality time in your life regardless of how busy you are to spend more time with your family and friends. Let people know now how much you love and appreciate them because tomorrow is never a guarantee.
21. Lack of focus on self
People make the mistake all too often of forgetting about their own needs. While they are so busy making sure everyone else’s needs are met, they end up resenting their loved ones and regretting the lack of self-care they gave to themselves. Don’t live to regret not taking time enough for you. Treat yourself to an hour of reading, a manicure, a night out with friends.
What life mistakes can you start forgiving yourself for making? It’s time to have a new life and start the process.