Keep the Sparks Flying – 1,831 Questions to Ask Your Partner on Date Night

1831 questions to ask your partner (click through!)

Recently I saw this article on The New York Times called To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This. It is a super interesting article that talks about how over 20 years ago psychologist Arthur Aron got two strangers to fall in love. It all starts by asking each other a series of 36 questions (The 36 Questions That Lead to Love). The questions start out broad and then one-by-one get increasingly more intimate. Basically fast-tracking the whole “get to know you” period. Then, the questions are followed up with a four-minute eye-to-eye stare down. This whole thing got me wondering, “Can you replicate what these people did even if you’re already in a relationship?” What if you just ask your partner all the questions right there in your living room? I figure that asking each other questions and staring into each other’s eyes is far less-expensive than relationship counseling and it could give you a major closeness booster so it could be worth a shot, right?

I’ve rounded up A TON (1,831) of questions for you to ask your partner (not all at once. lol). I’ve been trying to not assume I know how Aaron is going to answer because it’s so easy to do that after you’ve been with someone for awhile. That way it keeps me open-minded and he’s allowed to change, grow, evolve, and maybe even surprise me sometimes. :)

Use these questions in conjunction with a date night (24 Date Night Ideas for $10 or Less) or when you’re just emptying out the dishwasher together. It’s a free way to get closer and deeper your love.


1,831 Questions to Ask Your Partner to Get to Know Them Better… 

A List of 100 Questions to Ask Your Partner on Date Nights via Life Hack

74 Thought Provoking Questions to Get You Pondering via Udemy

90 Date Night Questions for Married Couples via Embracing a Simpler Life

36 Questions to Bring You Closer via Psychology Today

800 Random Questions to Ask via Allys Random Age

30 Date Your Husband From Home Questions via Traci Michele

50 Questions to Really Get to Know Someone via Super Sana

Heart-to-Heart Time with Your Spouse 50 Things to Ask Each Other via Intoxicated Life

60 Get to Know You Questions via Love Panky

100 Getting to Know You Questions via Sign Up Genius

21 Questions to Ask on Date Night via Patheos

45 Questions to Ask Someone to Get to Know Them Better another great list of questions from Life Hack

50 Questions to Ask Your Spouse on Date Night via Zach Terry

65 Deep Philosophical Questions via Operation Meditation

110 Get to Know You Questions via Goodreads

50 Questions to Get to Know Someone via Humor That Works

100 Questions for Couples via Everyday Better Living


Have you ever done a falling in love or a re-falling in love experiment? Do you like asking and answering questions like the ones listed above? (I do. I like seeing what my answers are, and I feel like I get to not only know the person I’m asking questions of but also myself.)

P.S. Here’s a FREE DOWNLOAD for you! 110 Cheap Date Ideas! Enjoy!


10 thoughts on “Keep the Sparks Flying – 1,831 Questions to Ask Your Partner on Date Night

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  1. Marie

    That is an overwhelming number of questions you’ve rounded up!
    The concept of sharing experience is key to friendship (and presumably it equally applies to love) in my experience, but we seem to exist on a superficial level the majority of the time, so I can see deliberately answering personal questions expediting a relationship and shared experience.

  2. Mrs. Frugalwoods

    Nice! Thanks for these! My husband and I are all about free date nights, so these’ll be perfect for us. It amazes me that there’s always more to talk about and learn about each other–even after 6 years of marriage :)

  3. Elliott

    Almost fell of my seat when I read the title – way to go Anna!

    Great point here- ‘staring into each other’s eyes is far less-expensive than relationship counseling’

  4. Jillene

    Thanks for these question links! This is just what my husband and I were talking about on the phone today: trying to plan out regular Friday date night after ~5 years together, find what that original spark of excitement was in pre-marriage dating. We realized there’d been a mysterious excitement back then because we were just starting to learn about each other and there was so much we didn’t know! Now, 5 years later, we want to keep learning about what we don’t know about each other. Which is why these questions are great!

  5. Evelyn

    Amazing! Thanks a lot for all of these questions. I’m sure it’s going to take me and my husband a while to get through all of them but it’s an interesting way to keep the sparks going :) Thank you!


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